I know I should probably let this drop, but sometimes the internet puts things in your path that you just can't ignore. H-Date.com is a website where people with herpes can hook up with others who have this disease. I am not that old, I have no sexually transmitted diseases, and I am sure I sound like the most out of touch individual on the planet when I say...What the hell?!
I know that everybody needs some lovin', but does it strike anyone else as odd that a group of people who got themselves in trouble by having sex, created the equivalent of a club and website where they can troll for MORE sex? Here's a guy who is "looking for a casual relationship" BUT he has morals of distinction...he can "only sleep with someone he knows well".
A quick Google search for "aids dating" turns up almost 300,000 websites!! Are we that far along in the "free love" movement that we need to have that many sites?? I thought teaching our youth about how to put on a condom was going to spare us from this nightmare.
I was taught, way back in 1995, how to put a condom on in school. The logic, then and now, was that "kids are going to do it anyways", so some crusty old lady took all the boys one afternoon and put a condom on a banana in front of us. Not only do I now hate bananas, but I learned absolutely NO applicable skills, because, let's be honest...
...when you're young, the possibility that you might be about to have sex is an almost crippling proposition. And while we ALL know better, there are just too many things that get in the way of that darn condom being put on properly. Sweaty palms. Shaking, nervous fingers. The voices in your head screaming, "This is it! This is it!" and "Oh my God, what are you doing?". The fact that putting a cold condom on a warm "special area" is the equivalent of thinking about Margaret Thatcher on a cold day. See? Lots of things to cause a young boy to chuck the whole idea of a condom. And none of these things are ever adequately covered, because, honestly, they never could be. There is just no way to prepare the young mind for all the things that come with not only the act of sex, but all the things that come along afterwards either. Like, let's just say, having to go to special websites to find dates because that "youthful indiscretion" has left you with one of the many "rewards" of the free love movement.
I, for one, am tired of the old saw "they're going to do it anyways"... of course they are! That's how "they" got here in the first place. But for us to think that teaching them how to do "it" will make them any more careful then we were is simply ridiculous! How about we engage them in ways that our parents never did? How's about teaching them the truth? How's about we teach them that abstinence, as old fashion as it sounds, is really the only 100% effective method against, herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, all the other STD's, AND pregnancy; and that everything else is a hopeful dodge at best?
Instead of continuing to insist that more contraceptive education will make them better informed and safer, why don't we accept the facts and admit that what we have been trying for years is not working?
"They're going to do it anyways"...Is that what you will tell your kid when they're going up?
"They're going to do it anyways"...Is that what you will tell your kid when they're going up?
"Hey Johnny, you're going to do "it" anyways...so be safe and put on this condom that has a recordable success rate ONLY if you use it absolutely properly. And if you use it wrong, then just pray to a God (that we don't really believe in) that your partner doesn't have AIDS (or gets pregnant)"
While we're at it, why don't we say this...
"Hey Johnny I know your probably going to try smoking, so here, at least take this pack of smokes because they're safer than the other brands. They still might kill you... but there's a chance that they won't. And here's a lighter with the safety lock taken out so that you have something to light it with."
